Common Sense

Sasha Grey calls me at 2 in the morning. I’m watching a rerun of The District (not by choice). I say “It’s good to finally here from you.”

“Yeah, my agent wanted me to do a lot of interviews especially Luke Ford, but I promised to do yours first.”

I feel special. I could just give you a transcript, because my memory is that good, but you don’t want to read a transcript.

She’s moving this weekend, so I didn’t want to keep her long. I cut right to the chase.

“When did you lose your virginity?”

“I was 16.”

If only every woman would answer that question, not just the girls who work in porn.

“Do your parents know that you’re in porn?”

“My mom does. My sister, my brother and my two other sisters. I haven’t talked to my dad in a while; he doesn’t know.”

When I look at her and talk to her, I get a very old-style vibe, like I’m talking to Marilyn Monroe. Someone who knows that they have power over men and are willing to use it. I like that.

“So you think of porn as empowering to women?”

“Of course.”

Sasha skipped a grade and was home-schooled, so she graduated early. She tried college and stripping before moving on to porn. She’s obviously smart, but talented as well. Already, there is a huge buzz in the industry about her. That’s odd, most girls have to wallow in obscurity for at least a month before there is some kind of adulation from on high in pornland. Sasha seems different.

“Has any of your work been released yet?”

“No.”

I haven’t seen that since Courtney Simpson, but she had that whole ASU cheerleader uniform thing to help her. Sasha seems to have actually gotten notice for her view of sexuality. On the phone and on her site, she describes herself as a “sexual commodity.” If anyone is going to exploit her, it is going to be her for her own gain.

One of her first films was Belladonna’s Fashionistas 2.

“So you worked with Belladonna?”

“That was a dream come true… it’s great to work with someone who enjoys it.”

That’s when she dropped a bombshell on me…

“Do you have a steady boyfriend?”

“Yes, I do actually. We started dating Monday.”

No love for a blogger, none at all. I’ve heard that once you’ve gone blogger, you never go back. In fact, you may never go again it’s so depressing. That would totally kill her career.

“Do you think working in porn will affect your relationship?”

“You don’t let the business interfere with your personal life. And it is a business.”

What did we learn from this? Well, we learned that I am a horrible interviewer. I probably would have asked better questions if we had been doing shots or something. We also learned that Sasha has what it takes to last in a business that is known for using and rejecting girls. I asked her what she thinks she’ll be doing in five years. She told me that that she wants to go back to school for business and art, but she definitely wants to be working behind the camera, still in porn.

“When you’re bigger than Jenna Jameson, you’ll have to give me another interview.”

“When I’m bigger than Jenna Jameson, I’ll give you another interview.”

In porn, there are only a handful of women who you really need to bother to remember. Most girls, they’ll be in for a few years, then out into oblivion. I don’t know if it is my own personal attraction, or if I’m really seeing something, but I think this woman is talented enough, driven enough and smart enough that I’ll be able to hold her to that promise.